tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post1278578356371364117..comments2023-09-23T12:45:33.092-04:00Comments on The Melodrama of Beth: A Little Encouragement and Coaching....Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04383641424956153299noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-86327663514671080622010-09-22T21:06:20.486-04:002010-09-22T21:06:20.486-04:00P.S. I think #4 is my favorite. When people say th...P.S. I think #4 is my favorite. When people say that I want to turn and walk away from the conversation, feeling that they really must not understand who I am and what I want out of life. And I'm offended that they think I'm not content with my life.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04186148629605632700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-15377838246718726312010-09-22T21:02:09.953-04:002010-09-22T21:02:09.953-04:00Love it!Love it!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04186148629605632700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-40053015830239635962010-08-19T11:43:05.838-04:002010-08-19T11:43:05.838-04:00Beth - I can relate to what you're saying. A c...Beth - I can relate to what you're saying. A couple of years ago one of the local churches asked me to present a talk/sermon on Christian singles and I put together my experiences of the last 24 years and made it both humorous and thought-provoking. Afterwards a number of marrieds expressed surprise about the reactions we singles get from the church and married people. In addition I could see the singles in the crowd agreeing with me about the issues. <br /><br />Thanks for your honesty. I'll have to write down some of the talk I presented into my own blog one of these days.Vicki Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07640474791994380213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-80015436148726031792010-08-16T23:28:04.008-04:002010-08-16T23:28:04.008-04:00I love you Beth!!!
And what you say is true, and ...I love you Beth!!! <br />And what you say is true, and I like what Ami said. We all are very different places, but it shouldn't mean we can't all learn to love a lot better. He calls to always go outside of ourselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-49042357939150232792010-08-16T00:29:11.020-04:002010-08-16T00:29:11.020-04:00I'm proud of you, regardless of your marital s...I'm proud of you, regardless of your marital status. I would like to have you speak to Women's Ministry about this and invite our singles to come, too. I want to know ways to make them feel welcome and included. Any ideas from any of you all would be welcomed.<br /><br />I love you! I personally know several men that should have snatched you up, but so glad they didn't, because they were undeserving of you!Pam Archerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14631034076731586204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-43371037455723456012010-08-13T21:19:54.972-04:002010-08-13T21:19:54.972-04:00I like the reminder that you cannot judge and love...I like the reminder that you cannot judge and love at the same time...married, single or married w/children.:) I always feel loved by you, Beth ~ even as a mom of five!! xoxoxoAmi Burrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189385790824649636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-36319284941065996102010-08-03T01:29:59.528-04:002010-08-03T01:29:59.528-04:00loved this! By the way, you ARE great, and some g...loved this! By the way, you ARE great, and some guys IS an idiot for not snatching you up! :)Teronya Holmesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-65755172968358674662010-08-02T17:52:20.145-04:002010-08-02T17:52:20.145-04:00My favorite thing about this is the picture at the...My favorite thing about this is the picture at the top.<br /><br />May I offer some hope to the other single ladies? I've found this phenomenon is GREATLY reduced when you get a little further north! Though I love Knox Vegas, one of my least favorite things about it was being made to feel like a failure and/or old maid at the ripe old age of 23 (?!). Singles church felt like a meat market where you were expected to Noah's ark it ASAP or move onto the next ministry. Up here in DC, people think it's a little weird for anyone under 27 to be married. Not that they are right, but it does take A LOT of the pressure off, because the ministries are a really great blend of singles, engageds, marrieds, and married with kids. Everyone in one age bracket (20-35 in my church) is grouped together and it is really great to enjoy the body from this angle.<br /><br />Anyways, just wanted to encourage everyone that I have seen the body simultaneously handle singles and marrieds together with great balance- it can be done and it's tremendously edifying for everyone!Franklynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05358344008912992027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-18626877660216302072010-08-01T14:27:28.616-04:002010-08-01T14:27:28.616-04:00very helpful now to the 9 people reading it!!!! :)...very helpful now to the 9 people reading it!!!! :) <br /><br />You are SO funny but SO right on point! Good for you for saying these things that many others want to say AND that many married folks (like me) need to hear! Honestly, you said this with such humor and with such a sweet spirit, but it really made me think about how I treat single people. Thank you!<br /><br />Looking forward to reading more! So happy to find your blog today!<br />Melanie<br /><i>~ melscoffeebreak.blogspot.com ~</i>Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08770511510179905439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-33318497437553399592010-07-31T21:44:10.279-04:002010-07-31T21:44:10.279-04:00wow!! all of you are so encouraging and yet challe...wow!! all of you are so encouraging and yet challenging me in getting outside my own shell and really ask more details about your experience. i invite you to email me or fbook message me more of your experiences and struggles to help me understand how i can care for you well!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04383641424956153299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-7968637239313234822010-07-31T21:35:30.880-04:002010-07-31T21:35:30.880-04:00You're wonderful and thanks for posting this, ...You're wonderful and thanks for posting this, Beth! When I saw that creepy picture at the top of this post, I immediately thought of the really, really strange weirdo you went out with once and then, ta-da, you mentioned him in point #6, ha!! But, really, thanks for posting this because, as funny as it is, I feel like I can be isolated from people people because I am married with kids...like, my single friends could care less about hanging out with me because I have a wild 1 year old I have to lug around and another baby on the way and, therefore, I can't go to dinner or to a movie on a moment's notice or without at least a few days heads-up, or go away for a weekend at the beach, etc. I sometimes feel like I don't have anything to offer, other than tips on changing diapers or getting your baby to eat vegetables. Sigh. Anyway, I think that without placing your identity in Christ alone (something YOU taught me over and over again at UT), anyone, in any relationship status, can easily feel lonely or overlooked. Thanks again for this great post and reminder to always include everyone, no matter what:) I added a link on my blog to your blog too, ps:)Sara and Wadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06402727162242036100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-61975095769845639182010-07-31T21:32:41.276-04:002010-07-31T21:32:41.276-04:00Love the edits and the final post. Pride in my he...Love the edits and the final post. Pride in my heart!<br /><br />And... sarahe... I've heard that from so many friends who are married w/o children. I always say that category is the "forgotten people" at church and even in our ministry. Thank you for the reminder and perspective.<br /><br />Kelly, thank you for being honest about the balance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-60283887559368369392010-07-31T20:38:34.357-04:002010-07-31T20:38:34.357-04:00Can I also point out that I had to type the word &...Can I also point out that I had to type the word "hornmus" to be allowed to post my last comment? Ha.<br />DLDLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09867456546294500702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-49852306269135216232010-07-31T20:37:32.583-04:002010-07-31T20:37:32.583-04:00You're the best. Can we hang out?
Love, DLYou're the best. Can we hang out? <br />Love, DLDLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09867456546294500702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-27807714114061008422010-07-31T18:06:13.866-04:002010-07-31T18:06:13.866-04:00I like this a lot!! Good insight! And I am eager...I like this a lot!! Good insight! And I am eager to read what might come of a post about "unspoken prayer requests."Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11564579574880613689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-10078262424413701002010-07-31T17:25:15.970-04:002010-07-31T17:25:15.970-04:00Thanks Beth for this perspective. I appreciate rea...Thanks Beth for this perspective. I appreciate reading it, because I really want to know how to relate well with my single friends, and not just hang out with them when my husband is out of town. I'll be honest, it's a tough balance. Tougher than I thought. It's almost as if I'll sit at home alone, knowing that I could call up some friends, but just don't want to hear the reactionary tales that Kelly only hangs out with us when Jeremy is out of town, because it's just not true! Although somehow is amplified. So although, it's hard to be single (I get it) it's also hard to not make a single bitter just by simply being married (from experience.) And, I'm willing to learn, I want to keep my single friends, love them, and not set them up with anyone I know that's single. So, teach me. Please.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822940414913544394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-7158841630083842482010-07-31T16:34:14.645-04:002010-07-31T16:34:14.645-04:00this is sooo great! I had my 'write' abou...this is sooo great! I had my 'write' about this in a newsletter to my supporters once :) This was all very well put. One more thing I would add to the comments about 'weddings' is PLEASE PLEASE respect our decision to NOT participate in the bouquet toss if we so choose. Pointing at us and chanting our name in order to motivate us to the center of the room with all the 15 to 20 yr old girls only makes us want to pack up and go home!steph kozickhttp://www.kozyinireland.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6064422257672715537.post-86930184818885351062010-07-31T15:24:44.250-04:002010-07-31T15:24:44.250-04:00i think those are great things to keep in mind, an...i think those are great things to keep in mind, and thanks for sharing your perspective in this. though i'm married, there is a similar attitude towards the "married for a few years but not looking to start a family yet" group which has caused isolation for me at churches and within the body of Christ. i honestly feel like i relate better with the single ladies and am more likely to spend time with them than the married w/kids set. i think it's hard b/c in the church and Christianity in general, it's as if being married with kids is next to godliness, and is something that we should all aspire to. well...sometimes i think people talk it up & put the pressure on us so much just because they don't want to be the only ones stressed out and miserable...not that married w/kids is not wonderful, but it's hard. so that's my 2 cents. thanks for this post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17336538743084629442noreply@blogger.com